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One reason dating is hard is that to build a happy gay relationship, three things are required: The first is chemistry, or attraction. Chemistry is the...

If I told you there was one psychological phenomenon that explains virtually everything you hate about gay dating, you might think I was exaggerating. And yet...

Yesterday I posted a thread asking gay and bi men what we could do differently to create a better dating culture. Three types of answer came up again and...

So much in dating is luck — i.e. things we can't control: Luck is meeting your right-fit partner at the right time. Luck is having access to the spaces or...

One of the biggest reasons gay and bi men struggle to find happy long-term relationships is because we struggle to believe they're possible. Many of us don't...

One way gay and bi men respond to shame and feelings of inadequacy is by adopting unrealistically high standards for themselves and those around them. Here's...

For many gay men, our earliest relationships can be deeply emotionally wounding. The simple truth is, many of us aren't emotionally ready for a healthy...

One of the most powerful things about relationship coaching — especially with queer men — is that it can help you identify "the issue beneath the issue." Let...

Something I've noticed recently is how lonely so many gay men feel at the moment. This kind of isolation is by no means new, but it seems to be especially bad...

“Gay dating is just so easy and so fun!” is not a phrase you hear very often. I’m a dating and relationship coach for queer men, and I can explain why. I’m...

These days it can feel like the only place to meet partners is online. Not only is that not true, there are lots of advantages of trying to connect with other...