by Ed Bell | Dec 12, 2024 | Dating and Relationships
One reason dating is hard is that to build a happy gay relationship, three things are required: The first is chemistry, or attraction. Chemistry is the feeling of wanting to be around someone, the ease or flow of spending time with that person. Feeling physical...
by Ed Bell | Dec 3, 2024 | Dating and Relationships
If I told you there was one psychological phenomenon that explains virtually everything you hate about gay dating, you might think I was exaggerating. And yet there is: It’s called gay rejection sensitivity — or gay-related rejection sensitivity — and we really...
by Ed Bell | Nov 20, 2024 | Dating and Relationships
Yesterday I posted a thread asking gay and bi men what we could do differently to create a better dating culture. Three types of answer came up again and again: 1) Better communication Many queer men struggle to communicate what they authentically think or feel with...
by Ed Bell | Nov 14, 2024 | Dating and Relationships
So much in dating is luck — i.e. things we can’t control: Luck is meeting your right-fit partner at the right time. Luck is having access to the spaces or opportunities to meet great partners for you. Luck is also who you are and who your ideal partner would be....
by Ed Bell | Nov 8, 2024 | Dating and Relationships
One of the biggest reasons gay and bi men struggle to find happy long-term relationships is because we struggle to believe they’re possible. Many of us don’t have clear models for long-lasting gay relationships. Many of us try to build long-term...
by Ed Bell | Nov 1, 2024 | Dating and Relationships
One way gay and bi men respond to shame and feelings of inadequacy is by adopting unrealistically high standards for themselves and those around them. Here’s What Having Unrealistically High Standards Can Look Like: Devaluing themselves for not having a perfect...
