Hi, I’m Ed 🙂

I’m a dating and relationship coach who’s obsessed with helping gay, bi and queer men find connection and community.

I come to coaching after more than a decade as a full-time musician, where I worked with organizations including Arizona Theatre Company, Soho Theatre and the BBC Singers. I also edited music for ITV’s gay sitcom Vicious.

I’ve always been a bit of a personal development fanatic, but it was writing and researching my book Boys Who Like Boys that really woke me up to how much specialized support queer men need and deserve in our close relationships.

I’d been coaching and teaching music for over a decade, but after seeing the positive impact Boys Who Like Boys was having, I decided to train formally as a coach, becoming fully certified in December 2023.

Since then, I’m grateful to have become one of the Internet’s favorite gay coaches, and to have helped hundreds of queer men build better connections and find more confidence in dating — or just think about themselves and their relationships differently.

Building relationships as queer men comes with specific challenges — we’re a small dating pool, and the trauma and rejection we face from growing up gay or queer massively affects how we see ourselves, and how we connect with each other.

I trained as a coach to help queer men overcome these challenges, internal and external, so they can find the confidence and skills to find more connection and belonging in their personal lives.

I also became a coach because I know first-hand how difficult finding genuine connection in our community can be — and how I struggled to find the right support after bad breakups and rough dating experiences. 

Oh, and because plenty of people ask: I’m 37 and originally from Yorkshire in the UK. I’ve previously lived in London, New York and as a digital nomad, and now live in Barcelona. When I’m not working, I’m usually traveling, at the gym, on the beach or catching up with friends.

Thanks for visiting Better Gay Dating and becoming part of this growing community of men who want to experience life and love more deeply. I hope to see you at one of my events or programs soon.