Yes, a Lot in Gay Dating Is Luck

So much in dating is luck — i.e. things we can’t control:

Luck is meeting your right-fit partner at the right time.

Luck is having access to the spaces or opportunities to meet great partners for you.

Luck is also who you are and who your ideal partner would be. For some people there are simply more of their “ideal partner” in the population.

The bad news is that we can’t control luck.

But the good news is that we can:

Find ways to stack the deck in our favor — we can become a high-quality partner, and find opportunities to get lucky.

Make sure we’re ready for when luck comes along — we can do the work to make sure we’re open and ready for love.

Learn to live our best lives — and learn to manage any frustration or disappointment we might be feeling — while we’re waiting for luck to strike.